UPDATE: Before you read any further on any blog or “news” site, read SwampWoman’s take on this. Couldn’t have said it better myself. PLENTY of blame to go around, for all the do-gooder, no-label, I’m-ok-you’re-ok crowd IN the school systems, prison systems, and political circles.
I’m not going to link or comment on the shooting in Arizona. Y’all know where to find information, but my favorites are The Camp Of The Saints and Grouchy Conservative Pundits. NOT because they have the latest breaking news, but because they discuss it at a level I appreciate and link to good sources. I have to post SOMETHING to get that headline off any pages that link here. Just not kind to leave it there. Would have done this sooner, but forgot that was my header. Please forgive my clumsiness at this.
My prayers go out to all the victims and friends and families involved today. May you find comfort from Family, Friends and God in your times of tribulation.
What I WILL post is a link to John Rosemond’s recent column. I didn’t make any parenting resolutions, but I sure like these!
1. We will not throw expensive “event parties” for our children on their birthdays. Instead, we will confine all birthday celebrations to our family, including extended family. We will keep it uncomplicated: a special dinner of the birthday boy or girl’s favorite food, a cake, the obligatory song, and a few simple gifts, mostly clothing or other useful things.
2. We will spend at least as much time helping our children develop good manners as do helping them get good grades in school, which means we will cut back significantly on the time helping with the latter (in consideration of the fact that good manners, which are expressions of respect for others, will take one further in life than will good grades). Each week, we will work on one specific social courtesy, such as saying “excuse me” when you walk in front of someone. Taking two weeks off, that’s fifty courtesies a year!
3. We will show our love for our neighbors by properly disciplining our children, insisting on proper behavior, and reprimanding immediately (even if that means in front of other people) when they behave otherwise, and on those occasions we will also insist they apologize appropriately.
4. If we have not already done so, we will assign a routine of daily chores to each of our children (at least those who have reached their third birthdays) and we will insist that said chores be done, and done properly, before they engage in recreation or relaxation.
5. When our children ask us for cell phones, we will tell them that they may have cell phones when they are able to pay for them as well as the monthly bills.
6. When our children complain that they are the only kids who don’t have cell phones (and do chores), we will tell them that learning how to be different is character-building.
7. Our children will not be able to order customized meals unless we take them to a restaurant. At home, they will eat what we are eating, and they will sit at the table until they are finished. We will do this so that when they are invited to eat at someone else’s home, they will be the best of guests.
8. We will surely bond with our children, but we will not bond with them in the marital bed, nor will we bond with them in their beds.
9. In keeping with number 8, we will put our marriage first and our children second…for their sake as well as ours. They will revolve around us; thus, they will not grow up thinking the world revolves around them.
10. If I am a single parent, I will take good care of myself for my sake as well as my children’s. I will have an active, adult’s only, social life. I will take plenty of personal time to simply relax and do those things I like to do. I will do all of that so that my children will not ever think the world revolves around them.
Find Resolutions 11 through 15 here.